When it comes to relationships, body language often sends louder messages than spoken language. Unfortunately, these body language signals can be really difficult to read. If you’re wondering if a guy is into you, here are some signs to look for and what they might mean.
One of the most common signs that a guy is into you is when he playfully touches your shoulder. This is a way to show interest without coming on too strong. Often, this will be done after he’s made you laugh (or vice versa), and it’s a subtle way of building intimacy between two people. This intimacy is the first step toward potentially taking that relationship to the next level.
If he’s not comfortable enough to touch you, he may send some other nonverbal signs that he’s interested. Playing with his hair, straightening his clothes, or brushing off his pants may be signs that he’s attracted to you.
These signs show that he’s trying to look his best for you, by not wanting his clothes or hair to appear untidy or unkempt. If your crush is particularly shy, these might be the first signs you’ll notice.
Another positive sign is when a guy puts his hand on your knee. This is a bit more daring than just lightly touching the shoulder, since the thigh is a more sensitive part of a woman’s body. If he’s touching your knee, he’s clearly into you and really wants a relationship.
Men will also stare at a woman’s face when they’re interested in her. Women, on the other hand, will often look away when they’re interested in a guy. Some women can find this aggressive, but it’s a sign that he’s into you. Whether you want this attention is an entirely different story.
Women can also send nonverbal cues to a guy they might be interested in. Just like with men, playful touching sends a clear message that you are into a guy. If you touch a guy, he will almost certainly interpret that as sexual interest.
Body posture can also signify that a girl is interested in a guy. If a woman sits up straight, positions her body in the direction of a man, and leans in to hear what he has to say, those are all signs that a woman is interested in a guy.
It should be noted that these aren’t necessarily hard and fast rules. These nonverbal cues will depend on the dynamics of your particular relationship. For example, if a guy has shown no interest in you whatsoever, the hand on the knee might mean nothing.
Similarly, if a guy is adjusting his shirt, he may not be trying to do anything more than adjust his shirt. These signs should be interpreted within the context of your particular relationship and other cues.
Now that you know what to look for (and what signals you should be sending), you can start some silent courtships with your crush. Often these unspoken signals can be the sexiest time in a relationship. Send the right signals while being receptive to his signals and you may soon find that your crush is now your boyfriend.