Weddings have been extravagant affairs ever since ancient times. Even in the Bible, Jesus had to turn water into wine after thirsty guests chugged all of the booze in the house.

Today’s weddings are no different. The families and the soon-to-be newlyweds want everything to be perfect. Sometimes this leads to unreasonable demands on the guests. Here are some examples of how not to treat your friends and loved ones on your wedding day.

1. Designer Suits

“In college I was a best man for a wedding where the bride demanded we all wear designer suits. I had to sell a guitar to afford just the rental. I had no money before, and after I had no money and one less guitar.

“Then at the reception the groom pulled me aside and told me it was my job as best man to make sure their marriage went well. I was supposed to check in and help them with marriage stuff to make sure they didn’t get divorced.

“I looked him in the eye and said I can’t be responsible for your marriage. He didn’t talk to me from that second until just a couple months ago. 6 years after his wedding.” —From bearded_booty/Reddit.

We love that this best man stood up to an unreasonable groom. Sometimes people need to stand their ground. It may take six years to get through to the person, but eventually, it will happen.

2. Destination Wedding

“My friend decided to get married at a resort in Aspen. We don’t live in Colorado and he wasn’t offering to pay for flight, hotel, tux, etc… for anyone except him and his wife. They were broke 23 year olds just like us. Neither parents had the money either. It was a noon wedding and a 2 hour reception immediately following. That’s it. Everyone fly home. The bride and groom didn’t even stay the night. He got so mad at me when I told him we won’t be able to make it. 5 years later he still doesn’t talk to me.”—From turns31/Reddit.

Destination weddings are great if you’re rich and retired. For the rest of us, they are a logistical and financial nightmare. Of course, you want to be there on your friend’s special day, but spending hundreds of dollars, finding accommodations, and getting off work can be hard to arrange.

3. Rain on Your Wedding Day

“Outdoor wedding with no back up plan on the shores of Lake Michigan. Pouring rain and wind but the happy couple requested no umbrellas because they wanted to be able to see the faces in the crowd.

“They were able to see the very wet and angry faces of people whose clothes were ruined while the bride and groom stayed dry under the gazebo.”—MajorMustard/Reddit.

Usually, the crowd tries to comfort the couple if it rains during the ceremony. This couple took precautions for themselves and left the guests to get soaked. It must have been a tense reception.

4. Pricey Pants

“500 dollar pants. After I refused the bride freaked because it made the wedding party uneven. Groom bought my pants, I wore them once, they divorced. He seems a lot happier with his new wife.”—From Uncooked Marsupial/Reddit.

It’s not surprising that people who make shallow and unreasonable requests of their wedding guests seem more likely to divorce. Wanting the wedding party to match is fairly standard, but asking someone to spend $500 for a pair of pants is not.

5. Dance Ban

“I was a bridesmaid and my SO was a groomsman, and we were banned from looking at, speaking to or dancing with each other for fear of ‘out-cuting‘ the happy couple. We’d been together for 5 years at this point.

“We didn’t do it, but the request alone was outrageous.”—From TheMackeroll/Reddit.

We understand not wanting to get upstaged at your wedding. Videos of men proposing to their girlfriends at weddings make us cringe. However, the whole point of a wedding is to celebrate, not just to focus on the couple.

We hope these unreasonable demands will be a lesson for anyone planning a wedding. Remember, your wedding day will be all the more memorable if everyone attending has a great time. Relaxing and accepting imperfect situations is the best way to make that happen.